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50 Happy Thoughts

21 Dec

People who know me say that I’m always happy, and therefore when I’m not smiling or perky as ever, they assume there is something wrong. What can I say? I’m just a happy person and I feel there is no other way to be in life. However, lately I’ve been especially happy, like one big ball of happiness. I can’t stop smiling and feeling all warm & fuzzy inside. Maybe it’s the holidays or something but I am feelin’ good. That’s why I decided to share with you today 50 things that make me especially happy. Hopefully some of my happiness will spread to you…

1. Breakfast for dinner. Think: french toast, omelets and pancakes. This never gets old. 

2. Trader Joe’s Candy Cane Green Tea

3. Road trips, like the 5-day one I just took to Florida

4. Yummy scented candles like Pumpkin Pie, Vanilla Frosting and Gingerbread. I swear I could eat ’em. 

5. People watching…on the sidewalks, on the T and in the mall

6. Baking muffins/cookies/cakes/breads, even though I’m really not the best at it. 

7. Catching snowflakes on my tongue 

8. Kissing inside by the fireplace when it’s chilly and snowing outside

9. Decorating the Christmas Tree. I still love putting up the Bert and Ernie ornaments every year. 

10. The soup & salad combo. Seriously, is there anything better? 

11. Sparkly, glittery things, especially stickers ‘n’ decorations 

12. Fuzzy slippers that you never want to take off

13. Hot hot showers that you turn into a “steam room”

14. Getting a surprise letter in the mail

15. Sending a surprise package to a friend

16. Gettin’ & givin’ presents

17. The smell of fresh Christmas trees…mmm

18. Laying down with a good magazine and a good cup o’ tea

19. Snuggling

20. Wearing bright red lipstick even on a non-special occasion

21. Getting new undies, new nightgowns and new lingerie especially at VS

22. Hitting the slopes for some skiing & feeling like you are on top of the world

23. Hot cocoa with marshmallows…especially when you are so cold your face goes numb

24. Talking to strangers and learning something new each time

25. Pea coats… all pea coats in every color 

26. Blasting oldies and dancing around my apartment 

27. Homemade dinner when I go home to my house in CT

28. Taking pictures…of everything & then putting them all over Facebook 

29. Catching up with an old friend when it’s wayyyyy overdue 

30. Peanut butter fudge

31. Twitter and all my friends I “meet” on the web

32. Friends that are there for you no matter what, like my neighbor who brought me Gatorade when I was sick last night

33. Random notes…on post-its in unexpected places

34. Cinnamon & sugar 

35. Running outside…when you feel like you can run forever 

36. Sunsets… in the mountains

37. Laughing until my stomach hurts over absolutely nothing

38. Mixed CDs

39. Trail Mix (homemade)

40. Hot tubs, especially when your muscles are sore

41. Being recognized for doing a good job

42. Random acts of kindness like giving up your seat on the train 

43. Coffee in the morning…Gingerbread coffee from Trader Joe’s 

44. Surprise spur-of-the-moment trips with the fam

45. The feeling I get after one glass of wine…flushed ‘n’ flirty

46. Good news

47. Reading my horoscope…when it’s really, really good & believing it 

48. Long naps

49. Yummy tasting lip gloss 

50. Laundry just out of the dryer 

The Secret (To Getting What You Want in Life)

7 Dec

So a few years ago, I was roaming through some old books in my grandma’s church “Rummage Sale” and came across a book that caught my attention: The Secret“The Secret. The Secret to what?” I thought to myself as I read the inside cover. The book quickly intrigued me, so I bought it. Heck, I’ll buy anything at a bargained price, but there was something about this book that got me. 

I must say, to this day, I’ve never read a book quite like The Secret. To sum it up, it basically tells you that you can have anything you want in life (yes, anything) as long as you believe it’s yours…and I mean,really believe it. That’s the “secret” after all to changing every aspect in your life to lead to ultimate happiness. 

At first, I thought the book was kind of a whole bunch of bologna. HA. I can just want something so bad and I’ll have it? Yeah right. If that’s the case I’d be in a relationship with a bangin’ body and a phenomenal job. [negative, doubtful talk]

But when I let myself open up to the idea that this philosophy may actually work, I started tobelieve…and boy did I start seeing some changes. After I read the book from front to back in one sitting, I decided to make a “visionary board,” something they talk about in the book. Basically, it’s a drawing of everything you want in your life: a new house, a new job, a new boyfriend, etc. etc. So I made a list. Mind you, this was a few years ago, but I drew everything I wanted at the time. I started off with a stick figure of myself in running shoes (I used to hate running) and wrote “lose 5 pounds.” I then drew a picture of a book and wrote “Healthy Chicks.” Mind you, at this time I didn’t even have a health blog [I actually had a relationships blog], never mind the visions of ever writing a book in the near future. I also drew a picture of myself at a desk and wrote “job,” among some other minor things that I don’t even recall. 

Anywho, within a couple of months, everything I had written down had become reality. I got a job (no, it wasn’t my dream job but I got a job and could finally move out of the house to Boston), I got an apartment with my best friend, I started my own blog “Healthy Chicks,” and eventually wrote my own cookbook “Healthy Chicks in the Kitchen.” Oh, and I now run at least 3 times a week (I started slowly) and the weight easily came off, I think mostly due to me being happy and content with myself.  

You see, the book isn’t magic in any way. It just teaches you to change your thought process so you think in a more positive, optimistic, “I can do anything I want” sort of way. Be a little cocky at times. Dream bigger than you ever thought you could dream. And go out and get what you want, girl!

A couple of weeks ago, I made another visionary board for 2011. I won’t share what’s on it yet…that’s a secret (hehe). But I will tell you, some things are already starting to come true. Funny how life works sometimes, huh? 

Did you read the book “The Secret?” If so, what did you think of it? Did you ever make a visionary board? 

Beat that Negativity With Happy Thoughts

30 Nov

[my dog Sunny…how can he NOT make you smile?]

I woke up this morning feeling gooooooood. You know, just one of those mornings you wake up on the right side of the bed, and you just know it’s going to be a good day. Naturally, I hopped out of bed and made my favorite breakfast (an egg white veggie omelet with feta cheese, side of toast and coffee…lots of coffee). Then I headed to my office (ahem, room) for some tweeting, blogging and article writing. It was only fitting to blast some Christmas tunes as well to go with my joyous mood. 

Then my mood was quickly taken down…about ten notches. For some reason, everyone I’ve talked to so far today were being Negative Nacys to the max. Complaining, being grouchy, being bitter, being mean. At first, I let it get to me and began to feel bad/guilty/sad/frustrated too then I realized I am my own person and am not going to let other people’s moods effect my own. So today I am dedicating this post to “happy” things to hopefully help brush off all that negativity, and make you smile. Life is far too short not to… 

Things that Make me Happy (and hopefully YOU too):

-long, hot showers on a cold, cold day

-fuzzy slippers, socks and blankets especially Christmas-themed ones

-homemade soup, particularly a huge bowl of my mom’s homemade chicken noodle

-chocolate (fudge, covered-strawberries, whipped cream-yes, it exists!, hot cocoa)

-My iTunes Christmas playlist that I have on replay

-Chocolate Chip Pumpkin Muffins

-happy, positive people 

-family gatherings with lots of food, drinks & laughter

-finding the good in every situation

-Victoria’s Secret Warm & Cozy PINK lotion 

-kissing in the rain or the snow

-cuddling by the fireplace

-cuddling in general

-my dog Sunny 

-true love stories & asking old couples how they met 

-watching sodes of Sex & the City for hours and hours

-Christmas movies i.e. Love Actually, Elf and The Holiday

What makes you smile? How do you wash away unwanted negativity? 

Sister Chats=Happiness

16 Nov

As many of you know if you’ve been keeping up with my blog, I’ve spent the last five days visiting my sister in Baltimore (hence the lack of blogging every day). But what can I say? When I’m with the sis, stopping to pull out my Mac and blog is the last thing on my mind. Rather, I take every minute that I’m with her to catch up on life and have “sister chats.” (That’s what we call them.) We update each other on boys, jobs/work and the latest gossip among many other things. You see, since we’re less than two years apart (she’s 21 and I’m 23), we act more like friends than sisters. We make fun of each other/tease each other/can get on each other’s nerves time to time but at the end of the day we are as close as two peas in a pod.  And that right there is exactly why I love having a sister, and couldn’t imagine it any other way. 

A few weeks ago, I stumbled upon this article in the New York Times called “Why Sisterly Chats Make People Happier.” Wow! Sisterly chats? It’s like this article is speaking to me. Anyway, the article discussed a study that found adolescents who have sisters are ultimately happier, less likely to feel lonely or down in the dumps. The main reason being? Women are more likely than boys to talk about and share their emotions. 

The article really hit me hard this weekend, when I realized “What the hell would I do if I didn’t have a sister?” Really, when I thought about it she is the first person I go to when I really need someone. When I got my heart broken in college, I cried on her shoulder. When I got a job, she was the first person I called. And when I didn’t know what to do about my life/felt kind of lost, my sister was right there for advice. Whether I’m jumping for joy or find myself stuck in a sticky situation, she is my go-to person for confiding in. 

Yesterday, it became very clear to me how lucky I am to have a sister like that. One of my male coworkers confessed some really tricky stuff he’s going through in life right now, and I was obviously there to listen to him/give him some advice. He then explained to me that he doesn’t have many people to talk about this kind of stuff with – not many close friends, no family members who’d understand and definitely no one at work. I felt terrible for him. If only he had a sister who’d understand I thought ’cause if I was going through something of that magnitude I think my sister would be the only one who’d understand/who I’d have the guts to tell. Well, her and a few of my closest friends. 

So, after all is said and done, if you have a sister count yourself one lucky duckling. And if not, it’s OK to have a friend you call your sister or an aunt who you can tell anything to. Just make sure you have someone who you can share your downfalls/dreams/disasters with…judgement-free. 

Do you have a sister(s)? Are you close with her/them? If not, do you have a friend who is a sister to you? 

Adding Sunshine Back into Your Life

3 Nov


Ok, seriously, what happened to the sunshine? If you live in New England you know exactly what I’m talking about. Just last week, I broke out a summer dress for a 75 degree day. Little did I know that would probably be the last time I see that dress until next June. It’s been in the 40s the past week, and frankly, it looks like it’s staying that way. Not to mention the fact that the sun goes down around 4 or 5 these days, and with Daylight Savings Time coming up in four days, it’s going to get darker even sooner! (Eek!) 

While this drastic weather change is expected for us New Englanders, it still doesn’t get any easier to watch the sunshine go and await for the snow to come, and let me tell you it’s-a-comin’ soon. Just yesterday my roommate said to me, “Looks like I’m gonna have to break out my sleeping bag coat much sooner than I thought.” You see, we both have these hideous, sleeping-bag insulated coats that keep us alive in the depths of winter. While we stored them away what seems like just yesterday, it looks like they’re going to have to come out of the closet sooner than we thought. My roommate was also bummed out about the 40-degree weather because it made her commute to the gym not so appealing after all. Not to mention the inevitable weight gain that comes around this time of year from too many goodies, baggy clothing and not enough exercising. What a bummer. So what did we do? We both sat there on the couch, watching The Millionaire Matchmaker and dreading the frigid months ahead. 

We looked miserable. But it wasn’t just us; it seems everyone I’ve been talking to lately is getting a little bummed out this time of year. I don’t know if it’s SAD, or we’re just being overly sad, but one thing is for sure: something needs to change. We all have to unite together and find some way to add a little more sunshine back into our lives, even if it’s lacking outside. While I don’t have the power to bring back Mr. Golden Sun, I think I have a few tips that might help a little…

*Purchase some workout DVDs: Not only will this give you feel-good endorphins, but it’ll also help on those days you reallllllllyyyyy don’t want to go to the gym. And if you’re like me and become a complete grouch when you don’t exercise, this is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Not to mention it’ll give you a fresh, new routine and help to challenge your body in new, invigorating ways. I just bought Core Fusion Body Sculpt and can’t wait to start today! 

*Liven Up Your Wardrobe: Of course you’re going to be sad putting away all your hot summer items when all you see are baggy old sweaters and oversized coats in your closet. Treat yourself to a shopping spree, but be careful only to get things you absolutely LOVE and need. Who said winter fashion had to be ugly? Buy some form-fitting sweater dresses, leggings ‘n’ tights with fun designs, or those boots you’ve been eyeing for months! When you feel good about how you look, your mood will improve too. 

*Eat Wisely: Be careful with what you treat yourself to this time of year. It’s easy to get carried away when you’re bundled up in oversized sweats all night long. Definitely treat yourself to what you want, but be extra mindful of listening to your body. When you are full, stop. It’s as simple as that. No need to get carried away!  A little trick? When you are craving something extra-sinful, wait at least 10 minutes to see if you realllllyyy want it. If indeed you do, then go ahead and have that cookie/brownie/piece of cake/whatever but eat it slowly, enjoy it and move on with it. Also, share it with a friend or wrap it up for later if you don’t want to eat the whole thing. 

*Do Something Fun…Indoors: No need to torture yourself in the 30-degree weather all day. Just because outdoor festivals, BBQs and events are over with for the season doesn’t mean you have to suffer. Research events near you so you can get out of the house and do something fun with a group of friends! This time of year is loaded with things to to, from local wine tastings and plays to seminars and basketball/hockey games. You can browse through a variety of Boston events here by category!

What do you do to stay perky & happy during the colder months? I’d love to hear your input… 

Me Things & Halloween Weekend Prep

29 Oct

Confession: today’s post is going to be cut short on purpose because I am going to take this afternoon solely for ME; that’s right a whole segment of my day dedicated to me and only me. I realized I do spend a lot of time with myself (well with me and my good ol’ pink mac), but I don’t really spend time on myself, and today I’m going to make that change.

1. I’m going to get a pedicure. I don’t think I’ve gotten a real pedicure in MONTHS, months I tell you! I contemplated saving the $20, $25 and doing it myself. Then I realized, whenever I give myself a pedi it comes out ugly, and I deserve something pretty. After all, it’s Halloween weekend, and I’m being Waldo and well, Waldo needs hot red toes. 

2. Speaking of Waldo, I need to finish up my costume. So I must take a trip to CVS to purchase a throw-away camera. I’m SUPER excited to snap shops all night long, and not know what they’ll look like until I get them developed. (Remember those good ol’ days?) Waldo needs to go all out with tourist supplies, so he’s going to have a camera, binoculars, fanny pack, water bottle, etc. etc. Can you think of any other must-haves?

3. Since we have friends coming up to visit us this Halloween, I want to ensure my guests have the most fabulous time! Hence I’m going to make fabulous cocktails and snacks, so there must be a trip to the supermarket somewhere crammed into this afternoon as well. I’m thinking orange and black jello shots, some itty-bitty finger foods and a few tasty desserts. I will let you know what I end up preparing! 

4. I’m also running super low on groceries. Seriously, the only thing left in my drawer is a few eggs and half a bag of lettuce. And if any of you know me well, you know I love my Trader Joe’s. I get so excited like a little kid on Christmas every time I walk in that place. Really, I think I could live there! The people are just so damn friendly, the food is tasty, and the prices are unreal! I will have to go on a Trader Joe’s adventure sometime today to stock up ‘n’ explore. 

5. I’ve been overdue for a super sweaty gym workout, so early this evening will be perfect for that. I’m thinking a solid 45-minutes of cardio intervals intermixed with some arms/shoulder weights. Can’t wait to sweat it out and feel the burn. I also can’t wait ’til my Core Fusion: Body Sculpt DVD arrives. Hurry up, UPS! 

And just for fun, take a look at some of my old Halloween costumes…

Last year I was a candy heart

Senior year in college I was an orange crayon…

Junior year I skipped out on Halloween (oops)…

Sophomore year I was yoshi from Mario Kart…

Freshman year I don’t know what the hell I was thinking (nor what I was)…

Happy Friday and Halloween weekend! XoXo

Oh, the Memories: The Nostalgia of Going Home

15 Oct


I have a confession: I’m sitting in the Panera I used to work at when I was in high school and am getting way too much satisfaction over the fact that I’m on the other side of the counter, enjoying my coffee this time. You see, my boss was a complete witch. Really, she was like the nasty stepmom in Cinderella. “Cut the bread!” “Make the jelly!” “Faster! Faster!” She’d make me cry every day of the week, and that is not an exaggeration. Going into Panera used to be as horrifying as going into the doctor’s office for a shot…or doing a presentation in front of the entire class. It was complete hell. One time the grape jelly ran out, and I told the customer he could have strawberry instead if he wanted, and she almost ripped my face off. “You never tell the customer no! Go make some grape jelly” Um, how am I supposed to do that? She pulled me into the back room and threw a ginormous carton of jelly at me, and had me scoop it for hours. She was the devil. Needless to say, I quit after a few months. 

Oh how I love being on the other side…sweat-free and writing on my pink mac. Take that witch lady! (Although she’s been fired 7 years ago) It still feels good. While working at Panera is one of the more horrifying experiences from my childhood (along with braces and acne), I also have a lot of good memories from being a kid as well. And being home this weekend is making me feel an overdose of nostalgia. I love returning home to Connecticut after being gone for so long (now that I’m a big, bad Boston babe). Here are some of my fave things about coming home: 

*free food: My dad already took me out to eat at my favorite seafood restaurant Max Fish, and I ordered my absolute favorite: blackened scallops. It was served with an acorn squash puree and rissotto. Talk about delicious. I love being able to indulge in expensive, healthy meals when it’s on the ‘rents. 

*home cooked meals: But nothing’s better than one of mom’s home cooked meals, bringing me back to childhood in a snap. This morning she made a spinach and broccoli frittata with potatoes, egg, and a little cheese. Tonight she’s making our absolute favorite: chicken divan, and our aunt’s bringing over spinach squares and a healthy roasted cauliflower soup. (I’ll see if she’ll share the recipe). Definitely puts my Boston apartment cooking to shame!

*my bed: There’s something about my bed that just puts a smile on my face. Maybe it’s that my room still has the silly sponge painted “clouds” with a bunny rabbit garden boarder. Or maybe it’s that my mom always washes and changes the sheets the night before I come home. “They are nice and fresh just for you,” she always says. “Flannel too!” She’s too cute.

*the smell: Just like your car, every house has a distinct smell. And when I walk in those doors after being away, the smell gets me every time, making me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I can’t even pinpoint exactly what the smell is, but you know it when you sniff it. That’s all I can say. 

*old friends: I’m such an advocate for “make new friends, but keep the old.” My old friends are my most important friends, and I love, love, love catching up with them! This morning, one of my high school/college friends Kiley met me at Panera for a coffee. It was so wonderful seeing her, catching up on our lives, and sharing funny (sometimes inappropriate) stories. Kiley’s one of those friends that you can see one or twice a year, and it still feels like nothing has changed. I love those kinds of friends. 

*town traditions: Tomorrow I’m going to the Apple Fest in the town over from mine, an annual festival I used to LOVE going to in high school. They have lots of yummy food, music, and giveaways all day long. I’m also running the Apple Fest 5k on Sunday and can’t wait to break in my new Asics sneaks! : ) 

*the fam: Oh how I love my family. I am totally one of those “family girls” who could hang out with the fam for weeks. My sister (who’s just two years younger than me) and I are more like friends than sisters, and my mom and dad are hilarious. We call my mom “duck” ’cause she waddles around all day doing the cutest, most hilarious things… and her one-liners are just the best. She once honked the horn in the middle of the road, and when I asked her why, she said “I like to scare the squirrels sometimes.” (What??!) That’s my mom in a nut shell. Then there’s my dad who could go shot for shot with me with tequila, and who I’m pretty sure my guy friends like better than me. What can I say? My fam is one of a kind. 

*driving: Now that I live in the city, I don’t have a car, so I love getting behind the wheel whenever I’m home. It makes me feel powerful and in charge, and is definitely a nice break from taking the T. 

As much as I love going home, I also love that I’m not there all. the. time. I’d drive myself crazy and it would make going home not so *special*. So I’m going to take this weekend to soak up every ounce of my childhood, but then go back to Boston on Sunday with a smile…

What are your favorite things about going home? What do you miss most about being home? What can’t you stand? 

Let Go of Bathing Suit Season & Embrace the Fall, Already!

21 Sep

While some are complaining about the end of bathing suit season, stargazing, and BBQing every night, I couldn’t be more happy about the fact that fall is finally here. And today realllllyyy felt like fall for the first time. I went out for a fancy lunch with my friend and ordered the Rotisserie Chicken with Butternut Squash Risotto. Let’s just say when I took that first bite of perfectly cooked rice with just the right amount of cheese and bits of butternut squash, I thought to myself, “Oh ya…fall is finally here.” Not to mention I licked my plate clean. So while some of you are crying as you store away your itty-bitty VS bikinis, I’m smiling ear to ear about my absolute favorite season. Still not ready to throw summer away? Well, I’ll tell you exactly why I love fall so darn much and hopefully have you smiling by the end of this post…at least just a little.

1. Cooking with butternut squash, spaghetti squash or any squash for that matter. Hey, you can even make fall cooking super healthy

2. Eating candy corn for the first time…and loving it just the same as when you were 8 years old

3. Long runs or walks in the crisp weather

4. Starbucks Pumpkin Spice Latte (even if you do just get one pump to save a few cals)

5. Apple picking with your friends…and eating at least 5 before you even weigh your bag (it’s OK, we won’t tell)

6. Homemade pumpkin pie, pumpkin muffins or pumpkin bread on a cool evening…after a long day at work

7. The switch from iced tea to hot tea like your apple cinnamon and gingerbread infused flavors you’ve been saving up for fall

8. Thanksgiving feast coming soon…need I say more?

9. Turning off that AC and sleeping with your windows open, snuggled up in your fave fuzzy blanket

10. Pumpkin picking with the fam, even if you don’t choose to carve it and simply use it as a desk decoration

11. Hot coffee that smells up your whole apartment like fall (Hint: Cinnamon Hazelnut is a great scent, and tasty too!)

12. Lighting fall candles if coffee isn’t for you like Pumpkin Spice and Apple Pie…Mmm!

13. Going on long hikes in the mountains and not sweating your ass off while doing so

14. Leggings, boots & sweater season is back!

15. Pretty foliage and leaves everywhere…and taking pictures of all the pretty colors! 

16. Football season i.e. your excuse for a girls night out (or excuse to eat just a couple buffalo wings or slice of pizza…hey, it’s for celebration purposes)!

17. Homemade kettle corn at local festivals and markets…with just the perfect balance of sweet ‘n’ salty

18. A movie in with your girlfriends (or boyfriend) by the fireplace…with popcorn and a little apple cider 

19. You can finally wear your hair down again without it turning into a complete frizz ball the second you step out of the house

20. You can just smell it in the air…fall is here!

What are your favorite things about fall? Or are you a summer girl at heart?

Confessions of a Sensitive Chick: How What You Say Can Make or Break Someone’s Day

14 Sep


I have a confession: I am a very sensitive person, and sometimes tend to care wayyyyy too much what people think of me. It’s mostly because I take what people say very seriously, especially those I value most. Sometimes this can be a very bad thing because I’ll let the tiniest little negative comment affect me in a BIG, BIG way. Someone told me I was big-boned once, and I thought about it all day long, feeling fat. When a coworker once told me all I think about was guys and that I need to get over myself (and my drama) I cried at work. When a guy in college told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, I assumed it was me and wondered what was wrong with me. Was I not pretty enough? Why did I let these little comments get to me? Who are they to make me feel bad about myself? What they say shouldn’t matter, after all. 

I specifically recall when I was a junior in college in an advanced Health Communication seminar class. The crazy, negative, intimidating teacher (who everyone in college feared may I add), went around the room asking all of us what we wanted to do when we “grow up.” “I want to be a writer,” I said timidly. (For an outgoing person, I’d always get so timid in college lectures.) “A WHAT? SPEAK UP!” she screamed back at me. “A writer…I want to write for a magazine,” I added quickly. “FUR A MAGAZINE? CATS HAVE FUR. It’s FOR, F-O-R. Before you become a writer you may want to learn to speak correct grammar.” I was humiliated. I completely shut down. I felt stupid/hopeless/mortified/embarrassed/weak. 

So what did I do? I dropped that class first of all, then went home and sobbed to my dad (sorry dad). But what my dad said to me turned my day around in a snap. First he made a lame attempt at a joke, saying I should have said “FUR YOU!” But then he told me how great of a writer I am, how wonderful of a daughter I am, and how much I have to offer. Suddenly, I was back to my normal self, high on life, just from his one little chat.

You see, sometimes my sensitivity to what people say can be  a good thing (when they say nice things, that is). It’s a shame we can let those little negative, hurtful comments get to us so much and don’t relish enough on all the nice, positive things people say. Think about it: you remember those terrible, mean, god awful things people said about you (behind your back or to your face), but those little happy comments seem to fade away. 

I want to make it an effort to remember more of the positive things people say to me. You know, the little things people say throughout the day that can turn your day around, making you high on life. Those are the things we should remember. Yesterday was the perfect example of this. As many of you know I was having a “blah” day, and no matter what I did I couldn’t snap out of my blah-ness. And you know the deal. When you’re feeling blah, every single thing that happens gets to you even more than usual. Therefore, minor, trivial things suddenly seemed to be bigger than they actually were. Anyway, I walked home from the cafe I was at all afternoon still feeling “blah” when I turned on my computer to find one of the nicest compliments (from someone I don’t even know…on Twitter!) 

“I just spent the last hour reading your blogs…So inspiring. Thank you!!! #amazing” (@heatherg22)

Wow, someone spent an hour reading MY blog? And she’s inspired by it and found it amazing? I suddenly felt on top of the world. After all, my goal is to inspire women day by day through my writing, hoping they can take a little something from it and learn a tad along the way too. So when a reader sends me a wonderful compliment such as this, it reallllllyyyy makes me feel good. You see, the tiniest things people say really do make a difference, especially for someone like myself who takes what people say so seriously. 

So lesson learned: next time you’re about to say something to someone that may not come out quite so nice, bite your tongue. And next time you wonder whether or not you should compliment someone or do something out-of-the-ordinary nice, DO IT. What do you have to lose? We need more little, nice happy thoughts in this world to dwell on (instead of little mean, thoughtless ones). After all, it makes for a much more cheery day!

Are you sensitive to what people say to you? What’s something not-so-nice someone’s said you just couldn’t get over, or something wonderful someone’s said to you that completely brightened your day? 

A Case of the “Blah’s”: How to Get More Out of Life

13 Sep

The other night, a friend and I didn’t feel like going out so we stayed in for some R & R. After an hour or so of snacking and lounging on the couch watching crappy television shows, my friend looked over to me and said, “I can’t believe the weekend is over already and nothing happened yet again. I’m just getting so fed up.” I thought quickly about her statement and agreed that she was indeed right: another weekend passed, we did our laundry, relaxed, and went out hoping for a good time and nothing really monumental or of any relevance happened. Overall, our weekend was pretty blah. In fact, so was the last weekend.

Suddenly we were both 100% bummed out. I quickly clicked off the television because this called for a real life chat, without the distractions of Jersey Shore, Say Yes to the Dress, and Sex and the City re-runs. No, this called for undivided attention. 

“What do you think it is that we’re lacking? What do you think it is that’s making you so upset? Men (or lack there of), jobs, stress, friends, money?” I asked my friend, trying to solve  half the puzzle of why we were feeling so low. And then she gave the most honest answer of all. “No, it’s not really just one thing I can point my finger on. It’s just the feeling that my life is so routine and nothing is really changing. I feel kind of stuck.” 

And this feeling of being stuck is something we all go through some time or another, some of us more frequently than others. In fact, I knew exactly what she was talking about and couldn’t relate to it more. As I sat there stretched out on the couch, I realized is wasn’t just one thing in my life putting me in a blah mood either. In fact, I too couldn’t put a finger on what was getting to me. My career path is finally going in the right direction, as I am pursuing my dream and following my passions. I’ve been keeping myself busy with writing, cooking, running, at-home yoga and dates in the city with friends. My social life has been pretty normal, and I couldn’t complain too much about my “love” life. Usually when I’m down, it has something to do with work, men or body image woes. But no, that wasn’t it this time. 

Then it hit me. The reason my friend and I were feeling so blue is that we were missing a little something in life: a little pizzazz, a little extra oomph. While our careers, relationships and social lives were going just OK, we were missing that feeling of excitement and zest for life. You know, that feeling you get when you have a reunion with your college friends you haven’t seen in years, or it’s the morning of the marathon you’ve been training for all year. While we’d been concentrating so hard on making our lives ideal (money, relationships, friendships, jobs, etc.) we’d let a little of that extra pizzazz go. It seems we got so caught in the trap of living week by week and getting our daily “tasks” done that life started to seem a bit routine. And what’s fun about that? 

No, we are definitely not routine, follow-the-rules kind of girls. We are spontaneous girls, who of course like to have a plan but also enjoy trying out new things and having things to look forward to in the future. That’s when I came up with the brilliant idea of trying a few new things per week in the city. Of course, we’ll do our usuals: eat breakfast, go to work, exercise, errands BUT (and it’s a huge BUT) we’ll also mix in new, fun things throughout the week to add a little diversity. Today I hiked a mile to try a cafe I’d never been to before (because it was “too far”), but have always wanted to try. What was I waiting for? Today was the day! Tomorrow I’m going out for sushi with a friend I haven’t seen in months, and Thursday we’re going to try Trivia Night at a local pub in the area. Sure, Trivia is a little out of our comfort zones, but it’s something new to try, and hopefully we can have a great time and meet a few new people along the way.

While these things may seem ordinary, it’s all about doing things that are new for you. Go to that exotic restaurant you’ve been dying to try, and get the most outrageous thing on the menu. Grab some friends together and go to a museum you’ve never been to before. Start a new book, in a genre you’re not familiar with. Always been a “good girl?” Do something sassy, even if it just means wearing sexy underwear underneath your sophisticated outfit. Take a left when you usually take a right, and get “lost” in the city being sure to take lots of creative pictures along the way. Go up and talk to someone you find intriguing in the cafe next time you’re sitting there alone with your coffee. The thing is: life is full of so many interesting, new and invigorating things. So next time I find myself feeling blah about being stuck, I’m going to remember that there’s so much out there to explore. I challenge you to throw all structure to the wind, put on your creative caps and start exploring. Then I promise you that blah-ness with fade away…

Do you ever feel stuck? What makes you feel “blah”? What are some new things you’ve been meaning to try but have never gotten around to? What is it exactly that’s holding you back in life? 

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