So, the other day I began thinking about the impact of a compliment, and how frankly they can make or break your day. Seriously, I, among many women I know, take what other women say to heart.
For example, the other day while on my way to a cafe, a woman on the T told me how much she looooved my outfit, and immediately I felt wonderful. She turned my plain, OK run of the mill day into great in a matter of a few seconds, with just a few nice words.
Suddenly, I was cheerful and feeling GREAT about myself…not just for a few minutes, but for the whole freakin’ day!
So now why, I ask, don’t we dish out these sort of compliments more often?
I feel like too many women get into the whole competitive ego thing, and feel the need to bring others down to make themselves feel good.
I’ve seen it many, many times, and I myself have even occasionally been a culprit of saying negative things about others, for god knows why. “Why is he with her?” “What the hell is she wearing?” “Get a new haircut!” These are just a few examples, but I’ve seen women get nasty behind other’s backs.
Why do we do this? Yes, it’s OK to think not-so-nice things about others at times, but why bother saying them aloud? Where will that get us?
And even more so, if we have the time and energy to trash talk other women, why can’t we set aside some time for the “nice talk,” the compliments?
I think we all (including myself) need to step aside from the competitive cattiness that lays inside us at times, and start coming together as women.
If a woman looks good, tell her! If you absolutely looooveee a shirt one of your coworkers is wearing, say something about it. If you’ve noticed a friend has lost a little weight, give her a compliment and tell her how great she looks.
Really, a simple little compliment can really go a long way and completely turn someones day around, making it a little brighter.
And the best part is, you’ll feel good about yourself knowing you made a big change with a few little words.